I'm gay and tired. In the spirit of the new year, I'm trying to draw more. We'll see if that happens. I'm in the process of trying to expand/ fix my theme so! sorry for any inconvenience with that // home / links
telling ppl attracted to men that there are no good men out there or that men can’t love only normalizes poor treatment from men & doesn’t do anything helpful
I realize that this may be a jarring topic for me to post about, given my general reluctance to actually talk about sex, but people have funny ideas about “tops” and “bottoms”. Someone’s preferred role in a penetrative sexual act is not interchangeable with the BDSM concepts of “dominance” and “submissiveness”, which is what most of the jokes seem to be about, and anyway, “topping” and “bottoming” are terms that are not usually relevant outside of sex between gay men. They’re not necessarily even interchangeable with “active” versus “passive” roles.
I realize it’s all Jokes™️ but I find that the humor of conflating “being sexually penetrated” with traits like weakness, passivity, and “femininity” has rather worn off.
Furthermore, although my knowledge on this whole subject is secondhand, even when discussing specifically kink/BDSM contexts, physical sexual position is not inherently tied to “dom” or “sub” dynamics.
I dunno. I normally would not comment on this, but joking speculation about the preferred sexual roles of random people is not particularly appealing to me.
